Are You On Your Safe List?

When someone ignores us, criticizes us, or is unkind, the nervous system sees that as dangerous and tries to protect us by going into fight, flight or shutdown.

The same thing happens when we beat ourselves up, ignore ourselves, or are unkind to ourselves.

And if we’re doing that to ourselves all day long… no wonder we feel dysregulated.

So what if we flipped that?

What if you became one of your own safe people?

Instead of:
“I shouldn’t feel this way…”
→ “Of course I feel this way. This is hard.”

Instead of:
“What’s wrong with me?”
→ “What do I need right now?”

This is the work.

When you become a safe place for yourself, everything shifts—especially in a mixed faith relationship.

This week, practice being on your own side.

And if you want support learning how to regulate your nervous system and show up more grounded and connected, I’d love to work with you.

You don’t have to do this alone.